Sometimes I come across a message from IATA (Am I the asshole?) That has so many red flags that I immediately end up siding with whoever is asking the question before even getting into the thick of it. Of the history. This is the case of a post from a canine groomer who decided to do some good to a friend by getting hired as a photographer for their wedding.
I am not really a photographer, I am a dog groomer. I take lots of pictures of dogs all day long to put them on my Facebook and Instagram, that’s “my thing” if that makes sense. A haircut and a photo for each appointment. I very rarely photograph other things than dogs even though I have a nice installation.
A friend got married a few days ago and, wanting to save some money, asked if I could photograph it for them. I told him it wasn’t really my forte but he convinced me by saying he didn’t care if they were perfect: they were on a low budget and I agreed to shoot it for $ 250, this which is nothing for a 10 hour event.
I can count 10 red flags in this scenario, and we haven’t even reached the big “asshole” moment of the post.
Red Flag # 1: TThe photographer isn’t even comfortable with this job, because it’s not something they specialize in, so much so that they don’t even call themselves photographers. They’re just taking pictures to help their dog grooming business, but their friend is on a “tight budget” and decided to take what he can get, I guess? Speaking of …
Red Flag # 2 – # 10: Friend offers $ 250 to film full wedding, fucking his friend and wedding photographers in general.
I don’t care if they claim pictures don’t have to be perfect. $ 250 is offensively low for event photography, above all for something like a wedding. Do you know how many aspects of a wedding are photographed? I attended weddings with several photographers in different corners of the room just so the couple could look at the same photo from twenty-five different angles. I was also in weddings where we all have to take beautifully staged photos BEFORE the actual ceremony, followed by photos of the ceremony and ending with every aspect of the reception.
Photographers don’t just throw the bouquet; they take care of the hair, the nails, the inside of the closet and the walk to the room.
Whoever published the story said as much about the amount of work they ended up doing. “On the day of, I’m in the car to follow the bride as she goes from date to date before the ceremony, taking photos along the way. I film the ceremony itself, and during the reception I film speeches and people mingling.
$ 250 for all that work? Yeah, whatever you’re about to say, you’re not the asshole here.
I started around 11am and was supposed to finish around 7:30 pm. Around 5 p.m. food is served and I was told I couldn’t stop to eat because I had to be a photographer; in fact, they did not reserve a seat for me at any table. I’m tired and at this point I kinda regret doing this for next to nothing. It’s also insanely hot: the venue is in a former legion of veterans and it’s like 110F and there’s no air conditioning.
Excuse me? They didn’t let you EAT ?!
Now I know I said almost every square inch of a wedding is photographed, but that doesn’t mean you don’t let the photographer take a break. The people you hire to work for you are entitled to breaks. A quick Google search of “do photographers eat at weddings” explains how couples go about making sure the photographer eats, especially if they work for you all day like this photographer l ‘did.
According to The knot, “You should plan to feed any wedding professional who will be there with you at the reception. This includes your photographer, videographer, DJ and band. The best way to broach the subject with your pros is to put it in the contract. Unless your vendor decides otherwise, plan to offer them a meal from the same menu as your guests.
Your perfect wedding photographer adds the following:
If your photographer is only there for the ceremony and reception, food is probably not necessary, however, if he is there all day, from early morning until night, the day is very long and long without substantial nourishment.
Some couples like to have the photographer join them at their table for dinner, which allows the photographer to take a few shots and then move around the other tables to take more photos.
On the other hand, the photographer may wish to get away from it all for a while where they can take a break and grab some food. They may also prefer this as they may not prefer to sit with guests as they may find it inconvenient as they don’t know anyone and would prefer a quiet moment briefly.
I also feel like it makes good sense to give people a break if they’ve been working for you all day, especially with something as strenuous as photographing a wedding. Again, this “friend” only offered $ 250 knowing that the photograph would include the shooting of the bride in action, the ceremony, the reception and all the other parts of that screaming $ 250 DOESN’T EVEN COVER THE DEPOSIT FOR THE SERVICES YOU ARE LOOKING FOR.
“I don’t care if the photos are perfect” my ass. You knew exactly what you were doing by convincing your friend to take on this job. If anything, the fact that he’s a friend makes it even more despicable. Can’t believe they put their photographer to work for six hours straight, and then instead of letting them take a break they started having dinner? Without letting the photographer eat ??? Were they just going to eat in front of them knowing they hadn’t had a break all day ?????
The story continues with: “I told the groom that I had to be away for 20 minutes to eat and drink something. There is no open bar or anything, I can’t even get water and my two water bottles have been empty for a long time. He tells me that I must be a photographer or leave without pay.
I am delighted to let you know that the rest of this story is as follows. “With the heat, the hunger, being generally annoyed by the circumstances, I asked if he was sure, and he said yes, so I deleted all the photos I took in front of him and left. saying that I am no longer his photographer. “
Needless to say, the decision on the story is that this poor photographer is “not the asshole,” although one user gave a good reason for keeping the photos: “OP shouldn’t have deleted the photos. . As satisfying as that may be, they should have left, and then when her friend asked about them later, she should have told them that she would sell them the photos for double or triple the price.
Yes, that’s a pretty solid answer. The moral of the story: Just because you hire your friends doesn’t mean you have to bend the rules of decency. Pay your wedding photographers for their time AND LET THEM EAT.
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